I fell for the romanticized, destructive idea in both church culture and pop culture that we must constantly “love and forgive and give away,” a sort of martyr-hero syndrome that … Continue reading Love Doesn’t Enable, But Empowers.
J.S. Park is a hospital chaplain and an advocate for self-care and mental health.
Things I’ve learned not to say in the hospital at the very moment of pain and tragedy: “Everything will be okay.” “You’re so strong!” “Pain is what forces you to … Continue reading 15 Things I’ve Learned Not to Say at the Hospital
Note to future self: When you don’t get it right — Apologize quickly and let go. Don’t beat yourself up or defend yourself too long. Humans are squishy with small … Continue reading Squishy Small Brains.
Don’t settle for less. Don’t sell yourself short. Don’t be rushed into a feeling, a decision, an opinion. Don’t let anyone talk you down. Drop the mic often. Prioritize, for … Continue reading Stay Passionate.
sakuramautoki asked a question: When Christians use words like “forgiveness” and phrases like “True love keeps no record of wrongs,” I find myself wondering how that would apply to certain … Continue reading Do the Abused Need to “Love and Forgive” Their Abuser?